Sometimes life puts little pebbles in our path for us to trip over – an unforeseen outcome to a well-planned action – a divorce or separation can be one of these pebbles (or rocks) that throws our entire rhythm off. There are however a few key affirmations that I live by that can be helpful, not only during this time but during the ups and downs of life. They help us to reinforce the loving aspects of who we are, to be happy every day, to be positive and mostly to get back on our feet after a divorce. I can’t wait to share with you the seven key affirmations that I live by on a regular basis and what helped me to get through my own divorce:
1. WE ARE A WORK IN PROGRESS
After a divorce or separation, we need to find ourselves again. In essence, we need to learn to be us again. Taking the time to find yourself will improve your day to day life, forever. We are all a work in progress and we are not perfect and neither is our life.
2. DIVORCE IS NOT THE END OF THE ROAD
Although it might feel that way right now, divorce is not the end but rather a new beginning. Take a moment to forgive yourself, as well as your previous partner, so that you can move on and find happiness again. Pay attention to finding your place of peace so that you can get to a place where you are ‘okay’ with your divorce. This takes time, but when you reach this point, you will see light at the end of the tunnel.
3. EVERYTHING HAPPENING NOW, IS HAPPENING FOR A REASON
Everything in life happens for a reason. Overall, we can create the future that we desire or want, but there will be aspects out of our control and perfection is never achievable. Trying to control all external events will prove futile. The only things that we can control is ourselves, our emotions, our perceptions and how we act in the next conversation we have, the next hours and the next couple days, which will ultimately impact our future. In essence, we can only control the internal – the us – which is ok. This can be a difficult concept but if we can understand and accept this part of life you will be stronger and wiser.
4. BE GRATEFUL FOR PAST RELATIONSHIPS
Holding a grudge is not good for us, really that is the only person that it truly impacts. It creates a negative energy inside of us, prevents further healing and possibly the love of your life from entering your life. Be thankful for the past, it made you the person that you are today. As hard as it is to accept when you come out of a bad relationship, there will have been good things that came out of your relationship with your ex. I have many amazing things to be grateful for from my past relationship, without it I wouldn’t be me for a start.
5. CRAVE NEW HEALTHY EXPERIENCES
Don’t let your break up or heart ache hold you back. Go do something you were scared to do before, you owe it to yourself to enjoy life. You have nothing to be ashamed of and you do not have to answer to anyone.
6. YOU ARE ENOUGH
You do not need to be more than you are right now. Take time to heal, take time to laugh, take time with your children and enjoy the small things in life. Gratefulness pushes us into positive energy, which helps our mood. Laugh more, enjoy more, and love more. Let go of the perception that you need to be someone else’s ideal. That is not to say we should stop growing and expanding, but we should also not always try to conform to other perceptions, wants and needs as to who we should be or how we should act. With this new chapter in your life, it is important to be kind to yourself, and be the best you that you can be and know that it is enough.
7. LEARN A LOT ABOUT YOURSELF
External events have the capability to shape us, and often, impact our future. Yet, if we take the time to look at things from an outside perspective we have the opportunity to view what has happened more objectively and gain the knowledge that external events only have power over us if we allow them to have. Therefore, whenever external events occur that is not favorable to you, examine them and choose a different path. In the process will you learn a lot about yourself and come to understand more about who you would like to be and who not from this day onward and in future. This is the beauty of life, it is how we grow and expand our consciousness to live a happier, healthier and blessed life.
Living by these affirmations have given me peace, new energy and an amazing future. You can have the same! Finding happiness is a path that no one can walk for you, it is you who must decide what makes you happy and how you will achieve true happiness in your life. The key to happiness is to be grateful for how one’s life is.